Sunday, May 14, 2023

Mother's Day

Today is mother's day and many of you would be posting pictures with your mother with quotes like 'I love you mom' sometimes these pictures would be from the albums, where mother's are staying far in another city and country in a life of solitude waiting to see and spend time with their kids and grandkids. There is nothing wrong with posting pictures. But please take a pause .. does mother's day means just a single day for you in an year ??

Mother’s Day Morning while I was taking a walk I sat on a bench for a breather when I met another morning-walker in her mind sixties. Beautiful and graceful. I have been seeing her for last 30 years while her kids were still going to school, then college. She use to be one tireless mom, 24x7 for 365 days a year. She bought up her kids well and they could get admission in top collages & universities and then take high positions in big companies and moved to another country.  
Both the kids use to come to India once a year or sometimes once in 2-3 years. When the news of the homecoming of kids use to reach the parents, a joy of festivity would start at home. Uncle will make sure all the logistics are done and anty would be busy making her much loved delicacies for them to have and take back.  
Eventually kids got married and had their own kids and their homecoming period extended and days got divided between in-laws and home. There would be times when the wait for kids to come home seemed never ending and unbearable for parents. Many times it would happen that the kids-in-law would directly go to their parents house, leaving the wait and preparation of parents never ending and never completing.  
Parents were also aging and longed to see their grandkids and play with them. Not that there were no video calls but it was initiated by parents only lucky to get connected at when kids and grandkids are not busy and available. But no digital media can take place for personal presence so the father decided that both parents would go abroad and stay with their kid.  
Finally with their decision they got the visa and tickets done and flew to another country taking a tiresome journey of more than a day sitting in an airplane changing two flights to their destination. A new country and environment seemed difficult to both the parents to cope initially but the company of their grandkids let time fly by few months.  
Grandkids were also growing and it was time for them to attend school. The school regime in this country was not the half day thing for kids, but to accommodate working parents regime it was full day boarding. This again left the parents again in void of loneliness in a new country where neighbourhood was not practiced like India. Houses too were far away so the sight of human also was rare. Slowly with sabotaged emotions and old age parents started to develop medical issues.  
One day when the kids and grandkids had gone to office and school, father felt a very severe and unbearable pain in his chest. Mother tried to call the kids but their phones didn't responded due to silent mode during meetings. Panicked and helpless she ran on the street for help to find no one till the miles. She rushed from inside the home to outside the street, in between trying to call her kids. After a long struggle she would find a police patrolling to whom she called to help and arrange for an ambulance.  
Once the kids meeting was over they saw the enormous number of calls on their mobile. As usual of Indian parents calling multiple times when not getting connected, they too thought the same. Since the meeting went for a couple of hours they were pretty much hungry and their stomachs were screaming for food. As both the couple's worked nearby they went to a nearby restaurant for food. This is very usual in west to have lunch outside since the tradition of carrying a dabba does not exists. Once their filled stomachs comforted them , they decided to call parents.  
They were taken aback to know that the father got a massive heart attack which the mother informed in a tired and weak voice. They both rushed to hospital and in the meantime texted the other kid staying in a nearby state about the father's whereabouts.  
Doctors were putting up a tough fight to save the father, but much time has lapsed in order to arrange for the emergency care. After putting up a long battle of twelve hours, finally the father gave up. Kids were is utter shock and mother was left shattered and helpless. Her last companion and support has left her.  
Post the last rituals were completed, mother decided to go back to India since loneliness and loss of life partner was unbearable for her. Back in India she got friends, siblings and relatives to share her pain.  
Months have passed by and now the mother has learned to live a life all by herself. She is braver, more active in her lifestyle. She takes care of her, doing yoga, regular walks and timely medicine. But at the day end.. she misses the voice of her kids and grandkids. She misses the time when the kids used to come home from school and instantly hugged to her. She sometimes calls her kids and does video calls to see how the grandkids are growing. But inside her she too longs for the calls to come from other side, the words that cares and comforts her.  
Yes the call comes from the other side too.. on mother's day !!

posted by NeeTo De' at 12:05 AM

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