Kahani Ghar Ghar Ki … the soap opera of every household
Since Ekta kapoor started the K-series Saas-Bahu sagas the DIL (Daughter-in-Law) and MIL (Mother-in-Law) sagas come out in open. It has given an excuse to both to vent out their opinions and views directly an indirectly. The Indian-Happy-Joint-Family may be a dream for all but it a hardship in reality. Both the sides has to put a great amount of hard work in order to understand each other and the relationship. There’s no fast track to it as “boss is always right”. Though there’s no hard and fast rule to it as every person and household is different as also the saas-bahu background, tastes and preferences.
But still there are certain rules to it and if they are kept in mind; things could better be smooth ahead. So saas-bahu, are you listening? Also, it would be nice for the prospective ones to give attention so things are better from day one.
Rule 1: There’s nothing called a Perfect Relationship , so don’t hope to have one. It will only add to your miseries. There are bound to be differences of opinions, way of doing things, management and many more. Well, you don’t expect to two individuals to be same. Do you??
Rule 2: Don’t be too pally with each other. Such scenes appear only in soap operas and work well there only, not in real life. Being close is good but maintain some distance also. It gives you and the other the required amount of space and independence and also the time to know each other better.
Rule 3: Don’t have expectations. The best way to be happy is not to expect anything from each other, whether materialistically or emotionally. So, anything comes in, is a bonus. And there’s no breaking of hopes too.
Rule 4: “My Way, or The Highway” never works. Cause the other side will always choose the later. Who doesn’t likes independence anyway. Try to find a mid-way or take turns in deciding for small things like; menu, shopping, family matters etc.
Rule 5: Don’t arrive at the conclusion so early. Humans change with time, situation and with mutual adjustments. So, to say my-saas or my-bahu is bad, is too soon won’t be fair, isn’t? also it creates a block in your mind, which will make you see everything negative.
Rule 6: Never compare a relationship in materialistic terms. What one saas gives to her respective bahu may be a matter of concern of jealousy with the other, but does the materialistic wealth make a happy relationship or family. Never equate a relationship with material things or deeds (like neighbor aunty keeps her kids, or gives expensive gifts on each festival) This is a major matter of discord in this group… as the grass will always be greener on the other side.
Rule 7: Be Expressive: Letting each other know your feelings doesn’t mean fight always. Don’t hesitate to tell each other’s good things which you really like and appreciate it too.., whether it is cooking, dressing, taste in clothes or keeping a house, patience or listen to you or to learn from you. Appreciation goes a long way and these small doses can be the binding material for your relationship. But be cautious; DON’T FLATTER! Flattery is cheap, and can o more harm than you could imagine. Also you could tell the things you don’t like. And when the other does the same, take it positively not as a criticism. Well, this is the most important rule as this helps to know each other better and brings you closer.
Rule 8: Don’t take Fights to Heart: at times fights are also good as they clear mental and emotional clutter. And fight doesn’t mean something is wrong with you both. Remember your fights with your siblings, parents and children. Well, nothing was wrong there and the bonding is still great. So, why not here. Only thing that should be kept in mind that there shouldn’t be any third person butting in between, and also don’t drag past events. Keep the current issue in mind. And once finished, get over it and move ahead.
Rule 9: Don’t drag Husband/Son in between: For this poor fellow you both are equally important, so don’t make an issue of him. To get him more, give him more. And do the time sharing reasonably. All three of going out for a movie, picnic or shopping would be a great idea. What’s say !
Rule 10: Respect each other: The last but not the least ‘cause here lies the key to all the above nine. Unless you have mutual respect for each as a person and the relation, nothing can work out. Love only succeeds respect.
Then only will the two DIL-MIL each other.
But still there are certain rules to it and if they are kept in mind; things could better be smooth ahead. So saas-bahu, are you listening? Also, it would be nice for the prospective ones to give attention so things are better from day one.
Rule 1: There’s nothing called a Perfect Relationship , so don’t hope to have one. It will only add to your miseries. There are bound to be differences of opinions, way of doing things, management and many more. Well, you don’t expect to two individuals to be same. Do you??
Rule 2: Don’t be too pally with each other. Such scenes appear only in soap operas and work well there only, not in real life. Being close is good but maintain some distance also. It gives you and the other the required amount of space and independence and also the time to know each other better.
Rule 3: Don’t have expectations. The best way to be happy is not to expect anything from each other, whether materialistically or emotionally. So, anything comes in, is a bonus. And there’s no breaking of hopes too.
Rule 4: “My Way, or The Highway” never works. Cause the other side will always choose the later. Who doesn’t likes independence anyway. Try to find a mid-way or take turns in deciding for small things like; menu, shopping, family matters etc.
Rule 5: Don’t arrive at the conclusion so early. Humans change with time, situation and with mutual adjustments. So, to say my-saas or my-bahu is bad, is too soon won’t be fair, isn’t? also it creates a block in your mind, which will make you see everything negative.
Rule 6: Never compare a relationship in materialistic terms. What one saas gives to her respective bahu may be a matter of concern of jealousy with the other, but does the materialistic wealth make a happy relationship or family. Never equate a relationship with material things or deeds (like neighbor aunty keeps her kids, or gives expensive gifts on each festival) This is a major matter of discord in this group… as the grass will always be greener on the other side.
Rule 7: Be Expressive: Letting each other know your feelings doesn’t mean fight always. Don’t hesitate to tell each other’s good things which you really like and appreciate it too.., whether it is cooking, dressing, taste in clothes or keeping a house, patience or listen to you or to learn from you. Appreciation goes a long way and these small doses can be the binding material for your relationship. But be cautious; DON’T FLATTER! Flattery is cheap, and can o more harm than you could imagine. Also you could tell the things you don’t like. And when the other does the same, take it positively not as a criticism. Well, this is the most important rule as this helps to know each other better and brings you closer.
Rule 8: Don’t take Fights to Heart: at times fights are also good as they clear mental and emotional clutter. And fight doesn’t mean something is wrong with you both. Remember your fights with your siblings, parents and children. Well, nothing was wrong there and the bonding is still great. So, why not here. Only thing that should be kept in mind that there shouldn’t be any third person butting in between, and also don’t drag past events. Keep the current issue in mind. And once finished, get over it and move ahead.
Rule 9: Don’t drag Husband/Son in between: For this poor fellow you both are equally important, so don’t make an issue of him. To get him more, give him more. And do the time sharing reasonably. All three of going out for a movie, picnic or shopping would be a great idea. What’s say !
Rule 10: Respect each other: The last but not the least ‘cause here lies the key to all the above nine. Unless you have mutual respect for each as a person and the relation, nothing can work out. Love only succeeds respect.
Then only will the two DIL-MIL each other.
posted by NeeTo De' at
10:40 PM
1 Comments:
hey guys.... do u really see these drama serials .....or like me... u too have to watch it b'coz of ur mommy....??? it is really good and great mixture of suspense and drama :)There is so much to learn from these soaps, also there are rules that we can implement in our day today lifes.... ... ... this site ... http://broadband.inday.com .... Have downloadable episodes of these serials ....:)
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